Monday, November 30, 2009
We got a completely different diagnosis on my Dad today. Thank God. He'll need longterm or comfort care as the VA calls it. Apparantly the Temple VA doesn't handle dementia patients well and the doctor there thinks its easier to scare the crap out of families by saying they only have a week to live and suggesting hospice care for them. Oh I so want to tell that doctor off. At least he isn't his doctor anymore. Everything will be handled at the Waco VA for my Dad from his labs to his daily oral medications. He shouldn't be going back to the Temple VA for anything. Icing on the cake is my Dad asked for a shave and a haircut today. I can't wait to see him. I hope someone emails me a picture of him. I'm sure he'll look a 100% better with that scruffy beard and long hair gone. He's still got the cellulitis infection in his legs and has problems with his right side but he's going to be with us for a little longer than we were told at least. Thank you God for answered prayers!
Posted by Karen in Texas at 5:35 PM
Saturday, November 28, 2009
for my Dad to go on his way. We've been told to make him comfortable and he was returned to our local VA yesterday evening to just wait it out. He might have a week if he doesn't eat or drink anything or it might be longer. I wish we had a time frame but of course there's no way to know for sure when he will finally give it all up to God. My baby sister has checked funeral prices and was quoted anywhere from $1200 to $1600 for the funeral. The cremation and internment will be free if my Mom can find my Dad's discharge papers. I know she had them at one time but I'm not sure if she remembers where they were. I just don't know where we're going to get that kind of money. This sucks. My Dad might have to go to a paupers grave because he never planned ahead and took early retirement and was living off of just social security and a tiny, tiny pension. I shudder to think of what will happen to my Mom now without my Dad. I'm pretty sure her house will have to be sold unless they have the insurance that pays it off if one of them do pass away. I hope they have that insurance. We'll see........we've got a lot of plans to make even though my Dad hasn't passed yet. My husband and I will be making these plans in January and starting a burial plan too. I will not leave my children up in the air over what we want and having to figure out where to get money from for our burials. There's too much grief to be thinking straight when a loved one dies to be making these decisions last minute like we're having to do now.
Posted by Karen in Texas at 7:05 PM
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
I heard on the news this morning that there are 5 wounded still in the hospital from the shooting. 1 is in fair condition and the rest are stable. Major Nidal Malik Hasan is still on base in San Antonio and is reported to be paralyzed from the chest down. It has been said that he will be pleading not guilty to all charges. I just don't get it.........
Posted by Karen in Texas at 7:22 AM
Monday, November 23, 2009
This is my Daddy. Robert is his name but he's always been called Bob by everybody he knows and meets. Well, except for his Mom. To her he was always Bobby even when he got to be in his 50's he was still Bobby. My Dad hasn't passed away but we have lost him to dementia. It's an ugly disease of the mind. I don't wish any family to go through this. It breaks your heart and then your spirit to watch your family member go through it. We're just going through the early stages of it with my Daddy but he had to be admitted to the local VA unit for extended care because of it. He more than likely will never come home. I'm handling it pretty well but my middle sister isn't. She's the one that lives with my parents so its been a really heart rending and terrible experience for her especially. I miss my Daddy even though he's not really gone. As one friend put it you miss the man he was. I do. I really do.
Posted by Karen in Texas at 9:03 PM
Friday, November 20, 2009
and not the Christmas variety. An angel I know is paying my parents electric bill of $675.97. My sister Cheryl had made payment arrangements and had my parents listed as critical care so she would only have to pay about $200 or $300 a month instead of that huge amount but all of the sudden TXU said she had to come up with the huge amount and that my parents weren't listed under critical care. I know who the angel is. I won't ever tell my sister Cheryl who it is. If the person involved wants her to know they can tell her. All she's getting out of me is that I'm the go between. I just hope she can keep up now with it all. Its too much for her to have all the financial responsibility on her shoulders but there's no way I have that much extra. I'm lucky to not have any overdrafts each month. Thank you again Angel.
Posted by Karen in Texas at 7:46 PM
Friday, November 6, 2009
Posted by Karen in Texas at 7:52 AM
Monday, November 2, 2009
she showed up this morning with book in hand at 7:52 a.m. We heard a knock on the door and Chris answered. She gave him the book and said "Gotta go" and left. I think she was surprised we were at home and I wasn't taking Chris to work. Maybe if she would have called she would have known huh? Now no more seeing her or her brothers anymore. We tried but still reminding myself that they aren't our children and they are adults. They are all over 21 now and responsible for their ownselves. Its up to them to get themselves a good life now.
Posted by Karen in Texas at 8:27 PM